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May 27, 2005
Question: well im dating this guy and he says a lot of stuff like he would die for me and im the best thing that happened to him and he loves me(we've only known each other for 2 weeks) stuff like that but i dont think i like him like that...but i dont know how to dump him gently cuz i think if i dump him he might kill himself...so how do i dump him gently so he wont feel bad.
ANSWER: If this guy is telling you things like this, and knows what he is doing, it’s a dirty trick on you, and he should be dumped early and quickly. If this guy is saying it without knowing what he is doing, he has the maturity of an imp, and should be dumped early and quickly.
As to the question of dumping: The wizard suspects that you have read the philosophy of dump on this site. He should read it, too, at dumpagirl.com.
Dumping is more painful and sinister when you prolong it. It should be done in one stroke, a one-time message conveyed in clear terms. The pain felt by the dumpee can be very real, but healthy people get over it, and move on to the next date. Don’t punish or torture him by letting him think you might change your mind later.
So, in answer to your good and heart-felt question, the most gentle dump is one push, and one push only, to a place out of your life. If he is allowed to stick around, he will do so in painful agony, wanting more of you, when you give less and less. That would be a dirty trick on him, and not very nice. Why don’t you buy a dump certificate and have my mail helpers send one to him? It’s anonymous, he’ll think its from you, but he won’t be sure. He’ll ask, and that can be when you tell him that as much as you have enjoyed his company, it is time to move on to another relationship. That will work. It’s gentle, quick, and final. And beneficial to him.
Wizard
May 25, 2005
Question: My boyfriend has been talking to other girls, and whenever i confront him about it he always says he is too busy with school and can't hangout with me all the time. Is he lying to me? What should i do? i need advice.
ANSWER: Now, now, now . . . Boyfriends may talk to other girls and girlfriends may talk to other boys. But if he is dating, or kissing, or flirting, or dallying about in audacious manner with other girls, then his attention is diverted from the one who should be getting his attention – You! Is this his fault? Of course it is. No doubt he is enjoying it.
Simply put, Michelle, the wizard hasn’t in my many lifetimes heard a boy say that he is too busy with school and can’t see a girl he likes. Never. A good student finds time to be with a girl he likes. You deserve better.
Wizard
May 25, 2005
Question: I am currently a student at XXXX college. My boyfriend of a year has told me that, he wants to take a break for the summer, and have a good time. We live 5 hours away in our hometowns and it is quite difficult to see each other on a consistent basis. I think he is dumping me in order to see other girls. What should i do?
ANSWER: Congrats at going to a terrific college!
Danger zone signs in the land of love say, “I want to have a good time.” If he is worth your love, he wants to have a good time WITH you, not without you. The wizard thinks your intuition is right.
After experimenting, he might realize he made a mistake. How does that make you feel? Is he worth your waiting for him to experiment?
The wizard suspects not. If fidelity is important to you, then he should be dumped, and you should enjoy a new relationship with someone else.
Wizard
May 19, 2005
Question: He wants to get married, have kids, and move in together. We break up on and off just about every week. My family can't stand him. He tells me that if i turned the tables on him and do what he does to me he will leave me.
i cheated on him by being with another guy. he cheated on me with another girl and doesn't even know if the baby is his. He starts acting stupid when i tell him i am leaving for college in two months like i can't go anywhere.
ANSWER: Whooaa! You’re bandwagon is too full! Pluck it in the bucket! This is a strike three, hang it up, sack ′em and whack ′em, end of days situation! Dump him resoundingly.
Wizard
May 19, 2005
Question: He is too clingy and lovey, should I dump him?
ANSWER: If too clingy, dump him. If too lovey, ask for more.
Wizard
May 19, 2005
Question: Should I dump my boyfriend? He has bad breath.
ANSWER: If his only smell is his breath, no. Just buy him a breath mint spray and give it to him with a smile. If he takes it the wrong way, dump him. If he smells in other ways, like in parts unknown, dump him.
Wizard
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